experience gavin

Gavin is (I don’t use past tense because his spirit is still with us) empathetic and selfless. I know this because I experienced it first hand while he was physically here on earth with us. Compassion is the ability to see and comprehend suffering. If we can connect with people on a deeper level we will experience compassion. Gavin lived as a connector, he lived radiating empathy. How can we live our lives through an empathetic eye? It can be learned, I have seen people learn empathy from one another. Don’t regret walking past someone who needs your help, stop an help- take action! That feeling you have after the act of kindness you show to a person in need will last a long time and quite possibly the person or people you lifted up will pay it forward. Kindness multiplies. Love wants to be given and it wants to expand person to person. Have you told the people you care about in your life that you love them? Why not go a step further… Have you told them why? Someone that I was once very close to told me after Gavin died that “Gavin loved you fiercely” It makes me emotional, not because I didn’t know this, it’s because I do! I know just how much Gavin loves me because he told me all the time, and still does. We love big in our family and I’m so glad my children tell me often. A phone conversation or a goodbye in person never completed without an “I love you”. Open your arms wide and include a hug. Do not worry about what others will think because the person you think may be shocked or uncomfortable when you tell them “I love you” is the person who will need to hear it the most. Gavin never dimmed his light, its brighter than ever even now because I know he is a master spirit on the other side, just as he was so ELECTRIC while physically here, and why not? When people live fully with purpose and know the importance of love while here in physical form, I believe they continue that path after death. If you open your heart to feeling Gavin’s spirit energy and light he will help you find the words “I love you bud” and perhaps a hug too.

I started writing this in May, I’ve revisited the draft often but never felt like I finished what I wanted to say. Today I’m confidant this little blog post is complete. I said just last night “I know I’m Gavin’s mom, and I was supposed to be the person to teach him many things as he grew… but looking back on the 22 years I was physically with him, he has taught me so much more!” This makes me happy everyday. To love BIG is to learn from him, to be yourself and live present and with intention… to be slow, like the sloth. Thank you Gav, for your infinite wisdom my giant sloth.